5 Love Languages: How Do You Know What Your Love Language Is?

Lasting relationships like anything worthwhile take intentional commitment over time. But when you’re just not on the same page, keeping your love alive can feel intimidating or even impossible.

In this post, Infoexpert24 takes a critical look at the 5 love languages that help add spices and boost one’s relationship and how to use them to your advantage.

When it comes to love languages, some people prefers words of affirmation and an acts of service. They need to hear that they’re important to people verbally and very regularly.

While others need people to initiate conversations with them, check in to say hey, and say “I love you.” They feel very loved when someone does something for them that takes a task off their plate or lets them know they’re thinking of them.

Most people’s love languages rank very high on words and actions, mid-to-high on touch and quality time.

You might be missing out on hearing the love others are trying to give you. If you haven’t taken time to process what really goes for you because it’s a great way to start learning how to ask for communication in more loving ways.

Also if you don’t know your love language, you might be missing out on hearing the love others are trying to give you, or communicating love in a language your loved ones don’t hear.

Below are the 5 love languages

Words of Affirmation: This love language expresses love with words that build up your partner. Verbal compliments don’t have to be complicated; the shortest and simplest praises can be the most effective.

“That dress looks nice on you!”

“You always make me laugh.”

“I love your hair today.”

Words mean a lot if your partner has this love language. Compliments and an “I love you” can go a long way. On the other hand, negative or insulting comments can hurt your partner and it could take them longer to forgive than others.

Acts of Service: Your partner might have this love language if their motto is “Actions speak louder than words.”

This love language expresses itself by doing things that you know your spouse would like. Eg, Cooking a meal, doing the laundry, and even helping to fix his/her hair sometimes are all acts of service. They require some thought, time, and effort.

All of these things should be done with positivity and with your partner’s ultimate happiness in mind to be considered an expression of love. Actions out of obligation or with a negative tone are something else entirely.

Physical Touch: To people with this love language, nothing is more impactful than the physical touch of their partner. They aren’t necessarily into over-the-top PDA, but they do feel more connected and safe in a relationship by holding hands, kissing, hugging, etc.

If Physical Touch is your partner’s primary love language, they will feel unloved without physical contact. All of the words and gifts in the world won’t change that. They want to feel you close by, not just emotionally, but physically.

Quality Time: This love language is all about undivided attention. No televisions, no smartphones, or any other distractions. If this is your partner’s primary language, they don’t just want to be included during this period of time, they want to be the center of your attention. They want their partners to look at them and them only.

This doesn’t mean that you don’t curl up on the couch to watch Nollywood movies, football, Netflix or even play your PS5; it just means that you need to make sure to dedicate time together without all of the distractions. That will help them feel comforted in the relationship.

Every time you cancel a date, postpone time together or aren’t present during your time together, it can be extremely hurtful to your partner as it can make them feel like you care more about other things or activities than them.

Receiving Gifts: This love language isn’t necessarily materialistic. It just means that a meaningful or thoughtful gift makes your partner feel loved and appreciated. Something as simple as picking up a cup of their favorite ice cream after a long work week can make a huge impact.

This is different than Acts of Service, where you show affection by performing actions to help your partner.

It’s possible to have just one main love language, a mix of two or more, or even qualities from all five, it’s also possible to put out different love languages than you take in.

How to use your love language to your advantage

The only wrong way to communicate your love language is to expect people to read your mind about it.

You can’t just state your love language on a first date and consider yourself well-communicated about your needs. It takes practice, but communicating your love language is important and not too difficult.

The only difficulty is when you’ve had past relationships that made it hard to express yourself due to gaslighting or someone not respecting your boundaries.
But I promise it gets better the more you practice.

Find out your love language and talk to your friends and partners about it. Invite them to find out their love languages too. Write them down if you want to be able to have a reminder later.

Give your friends a manual on how to speak your love language.
The only wrong way to communicate your love language is to expect people to read your mind about it.

Now that you have learned a little about the 5 different love languages, It may help with communication and assist in fostering a deeper connection and more meaningful interactions with your significant other.

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