10 Top Most Effective Tips to Forget an Ex

Every failed relationship is painful. It hurts us in a way no physical wounds can…,I too was heartbroken. I was so mad at myself for being such a fool and I almost hated the world for being so unfair. I wanted to slap just anybody and wanted to be alone for a while (thank goodness I have no suicidal tendencies). I was emotionally tortured at that time. I was crying while at work. And every time I hear the sound of some familiar love songs I can’t help but have mood swings.

I wanted to move on. I wanted to forget her as soon as I can (if only it can happen the next morning when I wake up) but I couldn’t. Everywhere I looked, I saw her…there’s just too many fantasies, and I thought I would go crazy trying to avoid them.

Over time, I’ve realized that it’s not enough to just want to move on…I have to do something about it and I did. It wasn’t easy I tell you. There were times when I was literally banging my head on the wall for being too weak to fight the urge to contact her and deleting all her numbers didn’t help as well as I have memorized them. But as time went by, it became less painful until you literally can’t remember how it actually felt. Fortunately, I was successful! Let me share with you the things I did and I’m pretty sure it will help you too.

1. Accept What Happened but Don’t Dwell on it

It is normal to be upset, mad, and hurt after break-ups especially if it’s a third-party issue. And you’d probably be mad for a long time. But if you stay mad you’d only stress yourself and you’d only make your world smaller. You have to accept that the relationship is over and don’t even try to pick up the pieces because you’d only hurt yourself. Acceptance is the first step to moving on and getting over that stupid ex, so it’s time for you to make that first step. Once you’ve accepted it, don’t dwell on it. Don’t over-think and over-analyze things. Don’t dwell on the “what’s or what might have been” in the relationship. It’s fruitless. Believe me, I’ve tried and it only made me feel worse than I have ever been.Instead, choose to accept that it is over and stop thinking. It’s not easy, but you can do it. A good way to deal with it is by journaling about your feelings. It doesn’t have to be the best writing or even good writing at all. Just get it all out there. Imagine that as you write them down, the bad feelings and thoughts are leaving your body and sticking to the paper.

2. Let Go

The rule of every relationship is never ever to be clingy. You have to learn to let go. I know it’s not easy. Letting go is actually the most crucial and the most difficult phase of every relationship. There are just too many memories and forgetting these memories feels like an impossibility. Well, who wouldn’t find it hard to let go? You have invested so much time, money effort, and tears to make the relationship work out only to lose it in just a moment. Of course, it’s hard to let go! Who am I kidding? However, you also have to think of yourself, honey. You ought to respect and value yourself more than anyone and being clingy indicates that your self-value is way below the line. Do not cling to someone who doesn’t see your true value. It’s just not going to work.

3. Go Outside and Be Active

I understand that you want to be alone and I respect that. Everyone deserves some alone time with themselves and I’m not going to deny you that opportunity. When you are alone, you can think things through but don’t overdo it.Do not stay indoors for long. Go out. Enjoy the outdoors. Socialize with your friends. This will give you less time to think about your ex. Bask in the sun or go someplace else with your family members. This will definitely give you a better view of the world you once lived in…the world without your stupid ex…Don’t forget that you once lived without him/her so it won’t definitely ruin your life now that you are back to where you once were… your life isn’t over now that they’re gone.In addition, exercising, sunlight, and fresh air will help you become healthier which will make your body feel good. Soon enough, your heart will start feeling better too.

4. Don’t Look Back or Imagine “What If . . .”

Once the relationship is broken, it will never be the same again no matter how hard you try to piece it back together. There is a reason why the relationship didn’t work, and it’s rare that the relationship works the second time around. If the deal-breaker was unrelated to the couple (like a job or just a minor misunderstanding), it’s possible things might work out if the situation changes. But if you broke up because of individual differences or cheating, hon, you should think twice before getting involved with the same person again.You need to look within yourself and be honest. If you think you can still trust the person wholeheartedly then go for it. But you have to be careful. Seriously—if he cheated on you once he’ll cheat on you again, that’s for sure! What I’m trying to say is, it’s better if you don’t look back. Less conflict, worry-free, and new possibilities for love and better life. Science has proven that once a cheater is always a cheater so do yourself some favor and look for someone else who would see your true value… What I’m trying to say is, it’s better if you don’t look back. You will have less inner conflict, fewer worries, and more possibilities for love and a better life.

5. Make New Memories

To get your ex out of your system, you have to create new memories. If you visited some places together in the past, you need to go to a new spot that you’ve never been to before. Better yet, go somewhere you went together but this time do it with your loved ones and friends. Eat foods you’ve never tasted before. Try a different sport. Do something you never thought you’d do like bungee jumping, skydiving, ziplining, rock climbing, or anything else! If you create new memories, you will have a better chance at forgetting your ex, and in the process, you’ll discover many more things that you are capable of, things you never thought you could do.